A few weeks ago I awoke to a feeling that something was off…
I got out of bed for my morning practice, and the curiosity grew stronger. What was going on inside of me felt important — not to be dismissed or ignored.
I grabbed my journal and allowed the information to flow through me. The feelings that came out on paper took me by surprise. I had been experiencing tremendous satisfaction in my work, my witnessing of its power, and my recognition of how truly power the work is for others. What my inner wisdom told me, however, was that I wasn’t feeling completely trusting of myself to communicate its power.
Waves of grief began to move through me as I allowed myself to be with what was presenting itself. A new layer, now on top, lifting itself to the surface for the sake of my desires. How could my desires for this work to benefit so many spread into fruition, if I, myself, could not communicate the power of this work and its benefits? My vision was showing me that there was something within me to release, so that I could.
I was scheduled to do a podcast in a few hours. The thought of showing up to attempt powerful communication about my work, when what I felt inside was a discombobulation of old wounds doing their part to heal, was uncomfortable. Forcing a layer of our expansion down while it’s trying to come up isn’t in my vocabulary. Nor is forcing change to happen before its ready.
After a brief email exchange, I discovered that the podcast host, who had been attempting to interview me for over a year, was headed off to Nepal the next day. Rescheduling did not feel like an option.
Creation speaks to me through dancing with it, and it was clear that the dance move of the day was to flow with the discomfort.
I made a choice not to actively work on clearing the discomfort before the podcast. However I would show up would be exactly as required — for the listeners, the host, myself. Because what is required isn’t always what we expect it to be.
Little did I know that Steven, the host of the podcast, was experiencing his own form of discomfort that day. Though I find myself perfectly normal, I’m also a mystery to many. I don’t do this on purpose — however I’ve learned to embrace showing up as a mystery, understanding that the work I hold reveals mysteries. It will give each and every person drawn to it exactly what they’re desiring — whether it’s through the mystery, or the revelation of its simplicity.
What I found during the interview was a mystery of a different kind. It was ease.
Ease, itself, has become an expanding partner in my life. Yet, the embracer-of-discomfort that I am, I was prepared for the discomfort to lead the way. I was ready for anything, and open to whatever the experience had to show me.
And yet, I realized, I’d become such a pro at sitting in discomfort, that ease was pretty much the only way to do anything any more. This doesn’t mean that my life is perfect — but that life has it’s own perfect ways of taking me to my desires. And that, in honoring that in all moments, life feels perfect.
In this interview I’m shifting. I’m changing. I’m expanding. And I’m releasing layers of my own not-enoughness.
And yet, it felt great. It was fun. It was easy.
Two people in their own versions of discomfort. Ease and flow resulting.
This, my friends, is what discomfort sounds like for me now.
My work teaches us to “love it all”. And I wish that for all of us.
In abounding love and joy,
When I was a little girl I fought tooth and nail for what was right.
I was the kid who spoke up (sometimes even shouted) in the classroom when the teacher didn’t treat all kids with the respect and love they deserved.
I was the kid on the playground who wouldn’t stand for unfair treatment or abandonment of anyone.
I was the child in my family who argued with my well-meaning parents (and other unsuspecting adults) every time they attempted to squelch the self-expression of myself or my siblings.
In Middle School, they called me “nice person” because took a stand for everyone as equals. I was the kid you couldn’t fit into any particular box because I had friends in each one.
In Graduate School, I quickly went from the wunderkind for whom my professors expected fame, to the black sheep that my professors despised for her unwavering ethics.
But then it all changed. In my 13-year career as a social worker and bilingual teacher I found that helping people was less about standing up for people; and more about giving people permission to access their own wisdom to stand powerfully for themselves. And in my last 11 years as an entrepreneur, CEO, and leader of leaders I’ve deepened in humility as I’ve grown to recognize that I and my company are not growing unless all of us get to grow with it. My team, my clients, my partners — if we’re not all becoming more powerful, my company isn’t aligned with the truth of power itself.
It’s simply not enough to stand for the change we can see possible and to try to get people to
“drink the kool-aid” about what we know needs to change. Shaking the world to wake it up doesn’t work if those around us aren’t waking up to their own truth alongside ours. Overcoming a fear of our power means overcoming a fear of the power of others, as well.
Deep down we’re afraid that power leads to an unlevel playing field. We fear that when people step into their power they won’t need us any longer. We fear abandonment of the support systems we count on.
When we choose to see everyone as powerful, however, our fears are given permission to transform.
Restoring people to their true power creates allies in change.
And restoring people to their innate wisdom — the first outcome of restoring people to their power — takes problems and creates immediate openings for solutions.
Creating change requires stepping back from the need to be seen in our own wisdom, and empowering others into theirs.
Creating change means letting leadership die, and something new take over.
The way I used to fight for others as a kid is no longer necessary, because now others are beginning to understand it’s safe for them to do the same (yes, not all of the world quite yet, but this is the trajectory we’re on and we’re not getting off of it anytime soon).
Leadership is dying because the innate wisdom of one cannot support the needs and fulfillment of many. Our needs and that deeper sense of fulfillment in our goals are only met when we each own the wisdom within ourselves and are given the opportunity to use it.
Leadership is dying because the guru-mentality has been cracked open and we can no longer lead with our fears or need to be seen.
Instead of leading with how much we know, we’re learning to lead with how much we don’t know. Leadership is dying because our egos can no longer stand at the helm of the ship. Our contributions have gotten bigger. The visibility of the suffering on the planet has become so obvious we can’t ignore it any longer. And scalability now has little to do with our ego’s wants, and a lot more to do with what the planet and its people require of us.
Those who choose not to see this are still welcome to play it safe with the old context of leadership. But for those of us who choose to see where the planet is headed and play a role in it, we cannot cling to the old paradigm of leadership any longer.
To make an impact of this size, we’re now required to learn how to channel the strength of the cosmos in order to scale our companies.
To “lead” today, each of us must hone our unique capacity to connect the dots between the physical and energetic worlds. And because of the uniqueness of the capacity to do this within each and every one of us, there can be many leaders to one process, rendering leadership itself — dead.
Death, however, does not happen to create emptiness or confusion. Death happens so that new life can come through. In the death of leadership, we are finding something new.
Leadership is dying so that facilitation can take over.
No matter what form our work takes on, we must learn to continually empty ourselves out so that the unique version of wisdom that wants to move through us can lead us.
We learn to co-create with that wisdom that both is, and is not of us, to create pathways that allow us all to be leaders — exponentializing the capacity we and our companies have to create shifts.
We learn to facilitate the process of those who are counting on our unique wisdom, to support them in the catalyzation of theirs.
We learn to proudly cultivate and own up to the truth that if we claimed to have all the answers, we’d be lying. Instead, we agree to cultivate our own power and wisdom so that together we can help those in our field cultivate theirs.
With facilitation, we learn that the wisdom of one person does not discount the wisdom of another, but build each other up.
With facilitation, we learn to open to the process itself and allow it to show us what we wouldn’t be able to see on our own.
A leader can command people to see them. But a facilitator can command people to see themselves.
And to cultivate the shift of an entire paradigm, it has to be about them, not about us.
As we were putting the finishing touches on “From Soul to Business: Love Letters & Lessons from Experts with Successful Businesses & Fulfilling Lives,” we felt something was off, that a piece of magic was missing. We soon discovered that the soul of Modern Day Sorcerer had something to say and was eager to speak directly to its participants.
The message below was channeled from MDS and it’s the first love letter included in From Soul to Business. We decided to share it with all of you, as well, because the energy felt powerful and pure and important for you to receive, regardless of whether or not you even have a business!
More than anything, this letter is an opportunity to anchor into the energy of what opportunities are unfolding in your life right now and an invitation to start dancing with your life in a new way.
We’re choosing to keep the language intact, so if you don’t have a business, we invite you to replace that language with whatever vocation, passion, opportunity, or purposeful work you’re called to do.
Here’s your special message from the soul of MDS:
Imagine walking up to someone on the street who appears to need your help, and jumping right in to help without asking any questions about what they actually need. That wouldn’t be true service – you’d just be imposing your intentions on them.
The same thing happens when we impose our intentions on the souls of our businesses: we stop being in true service to ourselves and our vision.
Business is an amazing dance. When we stop listening to the music, or when we keep trying to dance after the music stops or the rhythm changes, the dance ceases to be fun.
And business was never meant to be stripped of fun. It’s not intended to be a dry space where we force ourselves into exertion simply to make money or to be of service; it’s a party where you and your business and the people you serve get to dance til the sun comes up!
For most people, not learning to dance with the soul of the business itself is the missing key to what feels “off” in their business.
The soul of our business is intertwined with our own soul – it’s an intrinsic connection that exists regardless of what drove us to business in the first place.
Because these souls are intertwined, they lead each other and are equally invested in each other’s growth. It’s a reciprocal relationship, one that takes the visionary and the vision to the greatest depths and highest heights.
And while we are powerful creators and are meant to act as such, the souls of our businesses know who we are in ways that run far deeper. There is no need, then, to direct our business – there’s no need to push it forward or guide it blindly. When we learn to listen to it and dance with it, we get to become way more powerful than we ever conceived.
This dance is a choice.
We can choose to step into full alignment with our greatest potential – both the infinite version of ourselves that our businesses want us to become, and the fullness of our vision eager to come through in its highest form.
Or we can choose to continue with business as usual. There is nothing wrong with this – doing so will not necessarily stop us from making money or even from helping people. But it will put on hold the greater purpose brewing inside of us and that BIGNESS we’ve felt from a young age, the bigness we sometimes resist being open about because we’re afraid of sounding delusional. It leaves us with an emptiness inside that could be easily filled if only we would listen to, and learn to dance with, the soul of our business.
The soul of your business knows how to lift away the heaviness of the work you’re here to do for the planet. It knows how to guide you to the heights that look dizzying and the dreams that seems ridiculous but are actually more than possible when we’re truly aligned with our work.
This is why we at Team MDS listen when MDS itself speaks – this is how From Soul to Business came to exist in the first place.
There’s so much wisdom within the love letters (and videos and interviews and advice) included in this offering. That wisdom is inside of you and the soul of your business too, it’s simply choosing to come through in the words of other powerful beings and successful business owners who have been where you’re at and are eager to make your path easier.
Tomorrow, you’ll receive access to ALL of this content, and you’ll have a full week to play with it and incorporate it into your business and life. (Of course, if you’d love lifetime access to it, there’ll be an opportunity to get that before the week ends!)
There is one simple thing you can do to truly make the most of the magic available to you here. Tonight or tomorrow, before you dive into this juicy content, start to dance with the soul of your business in a new way. Turn on your favorite music and allow the soul of your business to speak to you through the words of the song or the beat of the music or a snippet of conversation outside your window or a voice you hear in your heart.
Find out where your business is ready to go and get ready to move in that direction with us as your guide. Share with us in our Soulful Brilliance Facebook group any questions or insights that come up for you after doing this. We’re so happy to support you!
You’re on a beautiful journey, and we honor you for showing up!
A few weeks ago I was on a train in Morocco. My close friend and colleague turned to me and said, “Hey I think we should be careful about what we show to the corporate community here, even on social media…”
I believe in listening fully to the person I’m talking to — in surrendering my thoughts, philosophies, and even what may seem like wisdom, to the other person’s thoughts, philosophies, and potential wisdom. We all have wisdom inside of us.
As much as I wanted to scream and immediately tell him he was wrong, I allowed myself to listen.
He told me a story of a friend who was immediately ostracized from a recent event he attended. My friend was speaking and facilitating, and this other man, who I had heard very good things about, came with him in support — and had helped to plan the entire event behind the scenes. But, because he had a more “rugged” look, the big names at the event began to talk behind his back. There were concerns of losing sponsorships and supporters, just because this man — a man who is apparently full of wisdom and insight that could have supported attendees — was present.
The saddest part of this moment on the train for me was noticing who was telling me this story. This very friend who was holding onto such fear that he would be ostracized in the corporate world, is someone who also preaches vulnerability in leadership. In order to have vulnerability, we must begin with authenticity. Even though this work comes from a place of deep knowing, if we don’t know how to do the deep work, it can take us decades to find our way out of the trap that is our fear.
I get the fear. Because I used to be that person — all the time, in fact.
In my early twenties, I remember being pulled aside by my boss. I had already proven myself in the non-profit world and was baffled to discover that administration had decided I couldn’t wear a certain type of clothing — a type of pants that, though in style at the time, I had only pulled reluctantly out of my closet, because they felt too conservative for me to feel authentic in. Ten minutes after I walked out of my boss’ office, I spotted a colleague wearing the exact same pants… which she continued to wear frequently.
But since that incident at 23, I’ve had 15 years to study the phenomena of not being able to be oneself in the workplace more closely. And what I’ve discovered has turned the common perception upside down.
About two years after the pants incident, I was teaching high school (yes, I had a talent for changing careers quickly before I became an entrepreneur — even when the new career involved getting yet another degree). I had a rowdy classroom in my 3rd period class. Though I’d never taken to the typical “classroom management” protocol most teachers religiously followed (I didn’t have to because I treated my students like human beings), I thought I would try it with this group — starting with how I presented myself. I walked into the classroom wearing a conservative outfit from the back of my closet, one I never wore because it was too stuffy for my taste. I turned around to write something on the board and heard a shout, “Miss! Who do you think you are?!” Baffled, I turned around, and all 40 kids proceeded to explain how what I was wearing was not “me” and they couldn’t pay attention if they knew I wasn’t being myself.
Out of the mouths of babes… or, 15-year-olds, at least.
From that moment on, I made a vow to be myself, and only myself, in the workplace. And here’s what I discovered.
- We only ever get fired if we’re supposed to.
We’re already clear that fear is the thing that holds us back from being ourselves, yes? Well, what are we fearing? Though, ultimately, we fear not being loved more than we do not having a roof over our head, the fear of getting fired (or losing business) and, therefore, not having said roof over our heads, usually sits in the forefront of our minds when we think about being ourselves in the workplace.
What I’ve found, however, through working with hundreds of clients who have stood in their path to authenticity, is that when we’re doing work we truly love — work we’re intended to do — we will always grow in our career when we grow within ourselves. If ever being ourselves causes us to lose our jobs or that client we had our eyes set on, it’s because that job or client wasn’t right for us. And when this happens on our journey to true authenticity, the doors are instantly opened to something that is far more aligned for us. Being authentic can only ever cause you to lose the job that you thought was keeping you safe but was actually keeping you small and hidden from the opportunity that will truly have you feeling far safer (because now you can be yourself and make money).
- Authenticity closes far more business deals than it loses.
Ever since I started honoring and trusting myself and my preferred way of being in the business world, there has been a shift. In my eleven years as an entrepreneur, countless clients, even mentors, have approached me stating that they chose me because of my ability to be myself.
I have a client who is a badass at closing large amounts of money for non-profits. For years, she thought it was in spite of her purple hair and deeply authentic way of being that she could close millions upon millions upon millions. Now, she truly gets that it’s an asset, and the more she owns this, the more powerful she’s becoming. (OMG I love my work!)
- We humans are really good at making our fears come true.
All of the stuff we fear happening in the workplace will only happen when we cling to our own fear and believe it. Our psyches are constantly looking for ways to prove to us that the world is a certain way. Our fears only come true because of this phenomena.
But it’s a phenomena that we have absolute power to shift.
By doing the deep work, we find our way through our fears and out to the other side where they don’t control us. In that world, the things we’ve feared stop coming true. And that’s where the world we always dreamt of as little kids starts becoming real.
- The only reason the corporate world persists this way is because we all allow it.
For most of us, the little kid inside of us that knew fervently that it didn’t have to be this way gave up long ago. Most adults now don’t see that this world they have given in to “just being this way” was also created by them.
Because when we don’t stand up for what we know is right, we continue to create what we know isn’t.
Standing up for what’s right doesn’t have to mean making a scene or protesting. It means allowing the veil of perception to lift and broaden. The only reason that things are a certain way is because we have given into perceiving them to be that way. When we allow ourselves to re-open our perception to things being a different way, they become that way instead.
- Loneliness and isolation are self-created.
When no one gets on the dance floor, we can’t see that almost everyone loves to dance (and even those who don’t, still enjoy watching). For each person who feels alone in the corporate world because they can’t be themselves, there are others in their workplace who are just like them — each individual just waiting for someone else to step up and be authentic enough to free them, too. And for each of us that steps up as a leader in our authenticity, we portray something that shows others they are just like us, or, at bare minimum, shows them they are not alone in wanting to be themselves, too.
Are you ready to get on the dance floor with us? Comment below. And if you’re ready to do the deep work to get there, click here to schedule a free consult (yes, they’re usually not free, but if you do it now, we’ll get you set up with a slot in Jordanna’s calendar for free!).
How do we review our growth from one year into another when things often stray far from the plan?
When we go into a new year, we may hold the hope or expectation that the intentions we set for the year will wrap up certain areas of growth or external fruition into neat little bows. “Okay, I got there.”
But life has a way of waiting to reveal things to us only when the timing is perfect — and that timing is usually meant to get us more in touch with the present moment. Meaning that even when we can see or “just know” aspects of the future (and that knowing IS what’s real — so we must follow that), we aren’t able to know how it’s all going to go down until we get there… until it’s all going down.
Still, we keep setting intentions. Because our intentions have their own creative energy, and when they’re set with a firmness of choice and trust in the divine, our intentions always come true.
We may get to the end of the year and wonder, “What happened?! Did they really come true?”
Oh, they did… just maybe not as you envisioned they would.
Intentions are a form of co-creation — and co-creation cannot come from the expectations of the mind or the ego, but only from our soul’s truest desires.
In fact, when we allow it, we’ll usually find that the imagination of co-creation itself holds far greater awareness of what we truly need.
And because of the age-old personal growth cliché, “you can ask for what you want, but not for how,” each year will always have room for subjectivity in how we choose to view both our internal growth and our external accomplishments.
Rarely will the outcome of your intentions from a specific year look exactly like you expected them when the year began. (Of course, it might be doable if you’re hell-bent on controlling your world, but this will likely result in a state of misery that won’t be worth it in the end, goals accomplished or not.)
This doesn’t mean that by letting go of the “how” or the outcome we don’t get everything we desire. In fact, just the opposite.
It’s by letting go of our expectations while they’re in the process of taking form that they’re able to take form.
Let me explain…
Three years ago, on the eve of greeting 2014, I set a solid intention for new levels of self-love that went beyond the “self” and had me feeling connected to myself as Source more consistently.
In my mind, I both assumed and imagined it would also be a year of alone-ness. When I set the intention, I was with a group of close girlfriends, all of whom had set intentions involving romantic love and partnership. I, instead, proclaimed “This will not be the year of partnership for me, because this is the year of new levels of connectedness to myself. And I need to find that before I’m ready for a partner, so I’m going to have to go it alone.”
But because life knows what we need better than we do, after the first 4 months of solo-adventure, very much out of the blue, I fell in love. And not the kind of love where it takes time to figure out what will be — we’re talking the kind of instantaneous “every cell in your body tells you this person is what you were waiting for, even when you didn’t know you were waiting for them” kind of love. Not infatuation, but soul-resonance that must be played out in this lifetime to help you grow.
Though I knew I was doing what was right, I feared telling my girlfriends who had been there the night I proclaimed my intentions.
It took me a couple of weeks to get over the confusion around forfeiting my alone time. It was only when I began to see how this man showed up with me that I realized I had been wrong about one thing.
That year was the year of finding new levels of connectedness to myself as Source, of that deepened self-love. But my proclamation that I was going to go it alone wasn’t actually part of the intention. It was my assumption of how I believed the intention was going to have to come to fruition.
Once I realized this and surrendered to the partnership I had been guided to, I discovered that it was through this man that I would find what I desired.
And I did. I found it through his example, through how he pushed me to become even more self-sourced, and through the many dynamics of our love that led me back home to myself.
When we get to the end of a year and evaluate, is it really that the year’s chapter isn’t complete? Or, rather, could it be that the chapter simply didn’t go down as you expected it would — as you actually needed it to?
This year has been an interesting year for both myself and MDS. It’s been one of those years where calculating how much has been accomplished is dependent upon perception more than an ability to crunch a bunch of numbers or outcomes.
Because, again, life had its own plan beyond my human imagination. In order to grow in the kind of achievement I had envisioned (my word for 2016), MDS showed #TeamMDS that it required more structure, more preparation. It showed us that achievement must be prepared for.
And I know by now that when I choose something, Source will guide me to become it, first. Because through the becoming lies the automatic and effortless fulfillment of it.
So for me, achievement wound up looking not like getting my book on the shelves — but instead it looked like spending the entire year deep-diving into the manuscript. I wrote voraciously, but for the sake of how the manuscript wanted to grow me, not now I wanted to grow it.
And for MDS, achievement in 2016 looked like developing an even happier Sorcerer School with even happier participants, Sorcerer School becoming an accredited institution, and growing all sorts of foundations within MDS to be a company of fulfillment and success in order for future achievement to happen.
What about your life? Though the start of a new year is less about needing to wrap things up in perfect bows and more about new beginnings from wherever you stand, I’m still willing to bet you’ll find more pretty bows of “ohhhh that actually DID happen!” from your previous year’s intentions than you may have thought.
And in taking stock of how those intentions came to fruition, you’ll likely find increased trust in just how much the “co” in “co-creation” actually knows what it’s doing.
I’d love to hear from you: How did the fruition of your intentions show you what you truly needed this year? Share in the comments below!
P.S. – If you’ve been interested in Sorcerer School but haven’t been sure if the yearlong commitment is right for you, then we have a treat for you!
For January, we’re offering a trial month in Sorcerer School! That means you get to enjoy a month full of Sorcerer School goodness and magic without the yearlong commitment. (If, at the end of the month, you’d like to stay on, we’ll let you know how. If not, no worries!) Sign up here for this special offer!
This week we wanted to share a Sorcerer School worksheet with you about Human Interaction – as a portion of the world heads into the holiday season to spend time with family …it’s common that our “shit” can come up during this time!
Human interaction is never one sided. We’re always coming into every communication we have with others, with our own perspective, awareness, perceptions, and background; and the person/people on the other end are always coming in with theirs.
When a disagreement is had, no matter how conscious we may be, our ego’s tendency to protect against threat (which can be as small as a fear of not being liked) can put up invisible walls and shift both our perceptions and the way we communicate things.
So even when the communication issue at hand feels like it was created or perpetuated by someone else, there is always room for you to soften just a little more; to release yet another (if even very subtle) layer of ego, and to surrender even more into the ultimate oneness waiting in your connection with another (yes, even if you’re feeling a giant disconnect in the moment!).
Below we’re sharing our Sorcerer School journal exercise to help you with this shift.
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