Having a difference of opinion with someone that I love has been the story of my life, actually. I’ve been the one in my life and with my loved ones to take the big leaps and to make the decisions that didn’t seem to make sense to anyone else. The career decisions, financial decisions, relationship and romance decisions – often causing a difference of opinion between myself and my loved ones.
And after a years of it, I’ve found so many ways to overcome it – to create not only peace and harmony in my relationships, but to allow the difference of opinion to be, and for it to be okay. To make it through to the other side of not just having things be okay, but being able to fully express myself and live in the truth of what I desire.
So, today as I share how to have a difference of opinion with someone that you love and how to handle it, we’re not just going to look at the practicalities of “Let bygones be bygones”, “Just let it slide”, and “Just make peace and make sure it’s all okay”, because those things can be constraining and keep us boxed in.
And most of the time when we feel strong about our own opinion, it’s because there’s something inside of us that’s wanting to expand.
So today we’re looking at how to have a difference of opinion with someone you love, and how to act on your own, in a way that allows expansion and brings you to the other side of peace and harmony in your own expansion with your loved ones.
I’ve also seen countless examples of this with people who want to come in to any of my programs inside of Sorcerer School, but who can’t really explain why or how to their spouse or their loved ones. Sometimes it’s about the financial investment. Other times it’s about what they know deep down inside – maybe spiritually, maybe about their vision or how they’re meant to expand that might cause fear in their loved ones when they say yes, or uncertainty.
And what I found is that by standing strong and what feels true for them, they’re able to come through and out to the other side where what they knew in their hearts in the first place also becomes what feels true for their loved ones.
So let’s dive in. Let’s look at four ways to have a difference of opinion with your loved ones and how to handle it.
Number one, learn to be okay with paradox.
Now relationships unto themselves are paradox. What I mean by paradox, is when there is one truth and there’s another truth that is different and appears to be an opposing truth, what is created is paradox – opposing truths.
And the thing about relationships is that relationships on to themselves are paradox. You’ve got YOU, and you’ve got ANOTHER PERSON and you are your own version of your “God self”, your “divinely intended self”, the truth inside of you. Even if we are not acting in our truth are not fully knowing our truth, we unto ourselves are a version of the truth, as are our loved ones.
And so in relationship paradox is inevitable of you and the other person and one truth and another truth. And when we can learn to be okay with two different truths that appear to be opposing inside of the same container, what is created is far more magical than what would happen if we tried to homogenize everything.
Number two, understand that your desires, your truest, deepest desires, can only catalyze what’s ultimately in the best interest and highest good of another person’s desires.
I don’t mean wants and the things that the ego thinks it wants. What I’m talking about is the things inside of us that we just know, deep down are right for us.
Our desires don’t always make sense. But we know when there’s something that is in our highest good are something that we’re supposed to achieve, or something that we’re supposed to bring about in our lives or on the planet.
And when we have a desire that cannot interfere with the desire of another. Our desires only bring about more good and more love.
And so even though someone else might say or tell us or perceive that our desires are going to thwart theirs, it cannot ever be true.
So when we can begin to understand that our truest, deepest desires – when push comes to shove, once we really go into them and begin to live them out – can only ever be the love that supports others and their truest, deepest desires. It allows us to act on those desires, no matter what’s going on with those around us.
Number three, practice sovereignty.
Now this one is perhaps the very hardest. We live inside of these unique and individual bodies, souls essences, but we’re actually not taught just to live inside of them as uniquely ourselves.
When we come into this planet, we come into it with wounding with imprinting with limiting beliefs and all sorts of wounds stored inside of our DNA that have us perceiving on some level that we’re not loved or that we are not loving. And those unconscious beliefs can sometimes get in the way of allowing ourselves to trust and to know that we are loved and to trust and to know that what we are doing and who we are being is loving to another.
And because of those unconscious beliefs, they can sometimes have us acting in codependent ways, unconsciously trying to make sure that those we love are taken care of, or are okay – just to protect ourselves on some level, or out of perceived protection on some level.
But sovereignty actually creates more love. When we can find a home inside of ourselves and come home to live inside of ourselves – trusting that everyone around us will always be okay inside of themselves – it allows us each and all to create and take space to have our own experience.
And so what happens with sovereignty is that if somebody that we love is going through something challenging – instead of us clinging to it and trying to make it better, which actually thwarts their experience and stops them from growing and does not make it better – what’s possible is they have their own space and their own experience to move through what they need to go through and to come out the other side. And then we have our own experience to move through what we need to go through and to come out the other side.
And the other side of sovereignty will always take us to more love in the end.
Number four, develop trust in the Divine.
Now I know I know, you’re gonna say that this one is really hard to do. Because frankly, it is for everyone. It’s the same wounding and imprinting and limiting beliefs that are stored in our DNA that tell us that safety means one thing when it actually means another.
And so in this life, we’re constantly working through our psyche’s, protection of what it thinks it means to keep us safe, and what true divine core safety really mean.
And when we can learn to develop a path in trusting in the divine that rooting into the divine sense of safety is always actual safety, we can develop more proof of it. So when we learn that our desires are only ever leading us to the things that are right for everyone involved, and we trust it and we walk the path of trusting it, everything around it that seems off kilter or out of sorts will ultimately dissolve. And the path itself will seem to root underneath us. And as we walk forward and trust in the divine, like we root into the path and it grows around us, and we become safer on that very path as to all of our loved ones.
I hope this supports you and making decisions that feel really true to yourself.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below…
Are there any decisions that you’ve been wanting to make in which you share a difference of opinion between yourself and your loved ones?
What decisions have you made in the past that were different in opinion?
And how did you make it through the other side? How did you handle it?