Last year I rang in the New Year in Morocco. And, if you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you may recall that the 3.5 months I spent there were akin to a bootcamp in living life in pure uncertainty (click here to read more).
People who want to create big things and change previously unchangeable paradigms, have to learn to surrender and choose — and doing so at the same time must become par for the course of the lives we lead.
It’s common for my clients to express to me a fear of uncertainty. It’s both quintessential to humanity, and to those of us who live for a contribution to humanity that appears out of our reach.
How would I be able to support my clients if I, myself, weren’t already a master of these differentiations between the realities of our humanity and the illusions of the God within it all?
My initial experience in Morocco taught me I wasn’t the master I desired to be — at least, not on the level I knew possible. A level in which all that was important to me could be hanging in uncertain imbalance, and I’d somehow find a way to be in spacious peace with it. To be both unattached to the outcome of any exact moment, and able to witness my own creation of the greater outcomes I knew my vision depended upon.
Was it even possible to master this level of uncertainty?
Maybe, maybe not. But I knew I had no choice but to embark upon trying. Because life would continue to be uncertain. And one thing I knew clearly within my soul was that controlling life didn’t work, nor did it feel right to me. But powerfully creating it did.
So in order to understand the method of creating as the expression of Source I believe we are all intended to be, I’d have to get my mind, my body, my actions, and my approach to creating my life on board with the distinction between the two.
I’d have to learn a dance between surrender and choice that allowed me to be both the graceful, softened, relaxed-into-the moment follow of the music I was moving to, and the powerful choreographer of the dance I desired to live in now and in the days to come.
It turned out not to be impossible. And, in fact, to lead to something that stretched the magic of my sorceress self into a fine-tuning of creation that has embedded itself in the energetics of my life and business. In the dance with uncertainty, I’ve learned to find stability within my business and my service to the world that holds strong to its core no matter what comes in certain uncertainty. The stability that holds the energetics of my, and my clients’, power as creators through the unstable.
And it’s now time to share with you a few more things I’ve learned that have been part of my how-to course in mastering this practice.
And, frankly, in writing this I’m realizing it’s not just about mastering the dance of uncertainty and choice, but about mastering all of the things in life that seem impossible, but that we recognize the possibility of which holds our power hanging in the balance — rendering our access to the “impossible” integral to our vision.
1. Learn to master time.
When it comes to the creation of that which we most truly desire, time can be a real mind-f%@#. We now know that time is not linear, but a nebulous energy in which everything is happening at once. Yet we still (if we want to be an active member of society) have little choice but to surrender back into the linear aspects of humanity. To call this confusing barely scratches the surface of description.
There is a balance between creating through a timelessness in which everything we could ever desire to create already exists, and in an ever-changing land of choice being a pivotal part of humanity. Though everything we could ever desire has already been created, little will ever exist in our lives until we, ourselves, choose it. Everything you can feel possible inside of you has already been created. And, on another level, you have to choose and believe and trust and choose and choose some more in order to access the fullness of what heart heart knows can be created.
The belief that it takes “hustle” is simply not true. What it takes, instead, is mastery of pulling our creations out from the infinite and already happened field of possibility, and of consciously creating in alignment with choice within your desires in the human realm.
2. Learn to embrace paradox, and master all of the paradoxes in the dance.
If the above is not a paradox that will rock your world until you learn what’s true in between it all, what is? When we get riddled in confusion of the paradox. Or, even worse, we insist upon choosing only one side. And because choosing both seems confusing and impossible, we drastically limit our power in creation.
When we master the power of paradox (meaning, the opposing truths that exist inside of all aspects of the human experience and our power as creators), our mastery of our power is more than double — it becomes exponential.
With mastery of each possible paradox, we gain access to a form of creatorship known only of and within the infinite.
With one side of truth, we become capable humans. With infinite access within the paradoxes of life, we become infinite, powerful, superhuman leaders.
3. Mastery cannot be “learned”, but, instead, must become embodied.
Uncertainty makes the body anxious and on edge, often before we even know its happening. And nothing can be “learned” to reduce anxiousness, nor to increase stability in the flow of life. Instead, it must be created from within, between the programming of the body, the programming of the mind, and the connection the two have to each other — and to the soul of you that is already infinite.
We can say we’re allowing, but we’re not actually allowing until our body is open and letting everything flow through it.
We can say we’re open, but we’re not actually open until our bodies and our minds have learned to love everything that happens and exists and arises with the softness that is love in action.
With paradox, I’ve learned that the middle ground — the absolute truth that exists in between two things in humanity that are true, but conflicting — lies not in the mind, nor in our actions alone.
Yes, it’s what we believe. And yes, we must confront our beliefs. But shifting them lies not in the mind, but in the realm of that infinite space in between the paradox of body and mind.
And yes, it’s what we feel. But accessing feelings of things like uncertainty, creation, and all forms of balancing surrender and choice requires a capacity to open to the infinite space within the mind and the body intertwined.
Finding the middle ground where both truths of a paradox are embodied as one infinite truth requires an embodiment — which is an intersection of the body, the mind, and the spirit.
It requires that we look beyond learning and to the infinite space within the cells of our makeup for transformation that exists on a cellular level, and plays out into how we automatically show up, not what we “know”.
Following and trusting in the uncertainty of the music being played as the soundtrack of your life…
and becoming the powerful choreographer of the dance with grace, ease, and flow…
requires a relationship with uncertainty that does take courage and capacity for transformation.
What are you doing to courageously step up in your transformation? How are you applying your personal growth to the moves you make in career, business, relationships, money, or your life choices?